Are you playing BIG or small?

Do you play big or play small?

Do you make yourself always right or always wrong?

This topic or ideas is always very helpful for my coaching clients, so I thought I would share it here.

It's all about balance.

The idea is that if we always make ourselves wrong THEN we allow, enable and encourage others to always be right. When we make ourselves 'wrong' we give away our power, and if we make ourselves 'right' we are taking power from others (often unconsciously).

Either one is out of balance. Our best interactions and relationships are those where we are in balance, and we:

• speak our own needs and respect others needs,

• ask and listen rather than tell,

• allow ourselves to be big and step into our greatness, and are not threatened by others doing the same,

• are open to others views and can accept others decisions,

• let go of judgement.

What do you do? Big or small? Right or wrong?

It can be different with different people and relationships, but quite often there is a pattern. What’s your pattern?  Would you change that pattern?

The idea is to have balance in your interactions.

The way to do that is first to recognise when things are out of balance - Are you playing big or small? Then gradually adjust to bring things into balance.

If you make yourself always right - try asking instead of telling, allow others to speak their needs. If you make yourself always wrong - speak your needs, back yourself and ideas.

The first step is to notice and become aware of your default, at that point there is this opportunity to make a choice – do I want to create a new default? The choice is yours.